Replying to LO24293 --
Replying to 24293
Thank you so much At, for a very interesting study. With your permission,
I'll try to use some of your bright ideas to back-up and support my firm
stand point: "- rather DO - MANIFEST!" And please, allow me to call it a
"strategy", rather then a "stand point".
You describe in full details how unpredictable the outcome of the "SAY"
strategy is - At least i can use this to support my suggestion not-to SAY.
Reading all the cause&effect statistics that you mentioned, i can but
observe that you too, in practice, realized that SAYING to people won't
necessarily bring the effect you wanted - so here is part of your answer
to your own question.
In the east they say "When the student is ready - the teacher will appear"
- if so, the more you develop your own compassion, the more you'll be
prepared for a ready student who might cross your way, thus - DO.
They also say (in various cultures and various forms) "One tends to teach
what one needs to learn" I would re-phrase instead, to something less
moral: "One tends to teach what one is able to learn". Thus - DO is an
opportunity.
The Jewish prophets said: "That who blames others, blames himself" -
well... we all know how harsh the principles in the bible can be, but i
think we all agree how right this saying is. I can remember the few times
I had the courage to imply this idea on my own words, and difficult as it
can be, I was always rewarded with more compassion.
And just because we all agree that what we need is more compassion (see
also LO24285), the DO strategy can just turn the wheels around: instead of
helping other people to have more and deeper compassion - each one of us
would help himself. In any case it will increase the amount of compassion
in our world and may also solve many disputes about responsibility, but
this is a different subject.
You wrote:
>Perhaps we see a problem where there is not one, i.e. people need
>not any evolution in "deep compassion". In other words, perhaps
>people who advance in deep compassion are the problem because they
>want to see this evolution also in other people. If that is the
>case, then I am also part of this problem because I believe that
>the lack of "deep compassion" is responsible for much of human
>suffering.
If so, at least those who know how to advance in deep compassion, should
be encouraged to share their experience with those who are willing but
don't always find the way. If we agree that each person should be
responsible for his own progress in this specific field, we are left only
with questions of HOW - and I hope we could share some of those precious
little moments to learn from each other.
This brings me to your words:
>However, why did I pose the question with respect to a study of languages?
>Let us think of evolution and specifically the evolution of languages.
>When we study the etymology of words, we actually study the evolution of
>the meaning of words. We may also study the evolution of grammer.
It seems that you just shared with us such an experience - studying
etymology (especially certain words and expressions) caused an increase in
your ability to feel compassionate. It works for some people sometimes - I
myself experienced somthing similar when I struggled lately with my
English, but I tend to connect these feelings with the actual meaning of
the words (like the word "deernis" that you analyzed so carefully with so
much care) and not with the studies themselves.
Before sending this mail, I'd like to call your attention to the word
"manifest". I took it from your words and used it as a synonym for
"display", "exhibit", "show" - it has of course other synonyms too.
Kindest regards
and Shalom,
Judy Tal
--Judy Tal <judyt@netvision.net.il>
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