Replying to LO25801 --
Hello Andrew, and thanks for the quote:
>'Children at school should be vitalized, awakened, rendered appreciative
>of values and sensitive to truth."
>
> J.C. Smuts
In my post I was trying to make a practical remark - sharing the way it
worked for me.
If we put aside the pure and innocent tunes that your sensitive ear caught
:-))) we'll find a "How to..." comment - not much in common with pristine
deserts (I had to open a dictionary for this :-)).
It reminds me of my father (let him rest in peace). Born in Hungaria, he
became a victim, and later a survivour of racist regime - and therefore no
wonder that he had some built in racist prejudices himself.
In Israel, as an immigrant, he overacted politeness towards neighbours
that immigrated from north Africa. I noticed this, only when I was at my
late twenties, experienced enough and deep involved in the social reality
of my homeland.
I asked my father if he's aware of his overaction - and to my great
surprise, his answer was positive (I used to be very sofisticated at those
days ;-)).
Then I asked him why would he do such thing, and he answered naturally:
"Not to make them think that I belittle them".
Being, at that time a Ph. D. student in pure math, I had a very sensitive
ear for dubble negations, and therefore I said:
"So, you do belittle them, ha?"
To my surprise, again (!), he gave me a decisive "NO!".
Well, does it have to do anything with authentic showing of appreciation?
Sure.
This is how it works:
When one feels that the appreciation he is going to show can be
interpreted as fake - It's a sign for him that more work has still to be
done.
putting it formaly:
When X thinks that Y has a certain thought in his mind - Then X himself
has that certain thought in HIS mind ;-).
(this is what i understood from your post "Curling in the leaves of grass"
and from a conversation, a few month ago, with a dear friend)
... and I'll pay my quotation toll ;-)
"People work perfectly to accomplish what they are currently
accomplishing." NLP - not sure if from O'connor & Seymour's book.
Warm wishes to those who celebrate the Ramadan and/or Christmas and/or
Hanuka,
Judy
Dr. Judy R. Tal
LCL - Learning Cycles Ltd.
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