Doc stated...
>Many other cultures are more advanced in their listening skills than
>ours...In conversation with a learning partner tonight, we discussed invoking
>pauses of silence between one speaker and the next. The idea is that, by
>using a 30-second or 1-minute time out between speakers, an audible
>silence is created--a pause--for reflection. If used consistently within
>a group, the haste to respond, attack, create witty repartees are all
>diminished.
If you think about our postings on the Learning Org, we are forced to
listen more closely, have the flexibility to pause and reflect. Too
often, in a verbal conversation people feel compelled to speak without
silences. If there are silences, people think there is a lack of
communication. So people speak quickly to fill in the silence. They
think if they pause, it shows they aren't a good 'thinker'
I'm going to try Doc's approach with my learning partners.
Gary Scherling
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