How to use 'praise' LO16750

Dale Emery (dale@dhemery.com)
Thu, 12 Feb 1998 23:21:11 -0800

Replying to LO16974 --

Bob,

> I am still unclear about how to use 'praise' in a
> specific manner such that it is not destructive to
> the learning process.

I prefer appreciation to praise.

Praise, like all feedback, is mostly about the giver. But praise is
phrased as if it is about the receiver: "you did a good job." I think
that makes praise confusing. Also, implicit in praise is the idea that
the giver's evaluation is somehow authoritative.

When I give appreciation, on the other hand, I make it clear that I am
talking about my own response to the receiver: "I appreciated the help you
gave me." I can speak with authority about my response to the person I'm
appreciating.

Dale

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Dale H. Emery -- Collaborative Consultant
High Performance for Software Development Projects
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