Replying to LO24272 --
Dear At:
I just found a message from you dated 3/31 that I had overlooked. Sorry my
replay is so late.
You said at the very end of your note:
> So what can I do to make my reply easier? I will end with the following.
> Your "unlearning" has much potential, except for its name. Yes, to use
> your terminology, learners have to "unlearn". But what become of those
> experiences which led to a "learning" which has to be "unlearned". It is
> impossible to "unexperience" such experiences because experiencing is
> experiencing, i.e. all experiences are irreversible. If these now loosened
> experiences are not attended to, they will merely keep on polluting the
> spirit and thus corrupting the personality since they have done so before.
> To prevent this cancerous fixation, they require careful midwifery which
> will ensure that they finally come to order (rest) where they will not be
> any more a barrier to further learning.
To clarify something I've said in earlier postings: You can't unexperience
experience, but you can unlearn the meaning you have given to the
experiences. And, with few exceptions, what we learn and what we know as
a result of what we learn, is meaning -- not the experiences themselves.
Our lives are affected little, if at all, by earlier experiences. Our
lives are determined to a great extent by the meaning we have given to
those experiences. For example, what mom and dad does to us (our
experience) can never be changed. The meaning we attribute to their
behavior (I am ...., Life is ...., People are ....) is "learned" at the
time, significantly affects our lives from then on, and can be unlearned
at a later time.
> Thank you Morty for the gentle way in which you stress what is vitally
> important for you. I wonder what is most important to you: unlearning or
> unhindered learning. In the former you merely need a scissor, but in the
> latter you will have to act as a very complex catalyst.
I believe that people create their lives, i.e., our lives are a
manifestion of our cognitive and emotional learning. Most of the time we
are unaware that we have created our lives and we blame what we don't like
on something or somebody outside of ourselves. My focus is on having
people become aware that they have and will continue to create their lives
-- the only question will be: will they do it consciously or
unconsciously? Actively or passively?
I have developed some tools that allow people to (1) unlearn the cognitive
and emotional learning that is producing undesirable or dysfunctional
behavior or emotions, (2) create new "learning" that will result in a more
positive life, and (3) realize that they are more than the creation (the
physical being, along with its behavior, thoughts, and feelings) they
experience themselves to be -- that they are part of a larger "whole", a
part of "God" if you will, that they are the creator of their lives.
My vision is assist people who want to transform life on the planet with
tools that will enable them to transform their own lives and the lives of
their organizations. In your words, I am trying to act as a "very complex
catalyst."
Regards, Morty
Morty Lefkoe
For information about the Decision Maker(R) Institute or
Re-create Your Life: Transforming Yourself and Your World
contact: morty@decisionmaker.com or visit www.decisionmaker.com
--"Morty Lefkoe" <morty@decisionmaker.com>
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