Replying to LO24761 --
Lon Badget, Replying to LO24759 says:
> I remember meeting a prominent American philanthropist once
> in Norfolk.
> The lunchtime conversation was monopolized by a woman who had
> too much to
> drink and I spent an uncomfortable two hours trying hard to be patient
> with her silliness instead of enjoying a conversation with a true
> renaissance man.
>
> I feel that way about this list from time to time. But it is
> my inability
> to moderate the things I find offensive that is the issue, not someone
> else's silliness. Does anyone remember such a story from their past?
There are many of them, and some years ago, I was the drunken woman!! It
is easy to fall prey to our perception of self. In my case, it was
anathema: I was not worthy and felt I had to work harder and harder to
prove myself wrong. The epitome of it came out in a lecture by a famous
neurolinguist when I was a grad student. Rather than asking the questions
which would deepen my knowledge of the subject, I sought to impress the
lecturer with my brilliant understanding of the subject matter. He was
kind and I survived.
A little of that, if designed to aid the learning process, can create
enough creative conflict to make things work. Too much of it is
oppressive. Knowing of my own abuses has helped me to accept that of
others when it doesn't get in the way of the learning process. When it
does, I try to be as kind as the lecturer. If that fails.....
John F. Zavacki
jzavacki@greenapple.com
OR (depending on my location in the space time continuum)
systhinc@msn.com
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