problems in human relationships LO30548

From: Mcconnell, George R (george.mcconnell@baesystems.com)
Date: 09/10/03


I am sure I am not the person At had in mind to initiate the topic,
and I am also sure that I don't have the answers. However, I do have
some thoughts.

My own personal strategy is to avoid creating the conflicts/problems
in the first place. It is often easier to avoid the problems than to
solve them once they have been created. This is true in most domains,
but perhaps more so where human relationships are involved. Of course
this strategy does not always work ;-)

The particular difficulties associated with problems in human
relationships are so often rooted in the individual/organisations
mental models or world views. It is, of course, important for us each
to form our own world view, but too often they become fixed (or should
that be fixated?) rather than remaining fluid and open to change.

At wrote:

> I have read
> occassionaly how a person who had a long path of PM (continuous learning)
> behind the back admit that it was the length of that path in front which
> convinced the person that he/she had nothing to be proud about.

This has been my experience too - the more I learn, the more I am
aware of how little I know and how potentially wrong some of my ideas
and views might be. Unfortunately, I think, too many people stop
learning because they think that they know everything (or at least
everything that they need to know) and it is then that their world
views become frozen and very hard to change. When that world view
clashes with reality - there is bound to be conflict and unless people
are practised in resolving such conflicts what occurs is deadlock with
one or both sides unwilling to recognise the rights of the other's
world view.

It occurs also because, for most people, there is no grey in their
world view - it is black or white, right or wrong - no middle ground -
always either/or - rejecting the possibility of "and".

regards
        George

george.mcconnell@baesystems.com 01202 404824

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