Most Important Lesson Learned LO19679

Toni McMurphy (inspire@earthlink.net)
Thu, 29 Oct 1998 07:23:51 +0100

Replying to LO19675 --

Geof Fountain posed a great question:

"What is the biggest (or one of the biggest) lesson you learned since you
have begun practicing the LO disciplines ? Put some heart and soul into
your answer. "

My greatest lesson centers around the realization that one of my most
important responsbilities is to keep working on myself. If I am going to
be truly effective in serving others in my work as an OT/LO consultant I
must continuously work on clearing out my own baggage and issues and not
get triggered/sucked in to the drama/dysfunction that is so prevalent in
many of the organizations I consult with.

I recognize it may sound a bit judgmental to use "drama/dysfunction" in
describing organizations and people, but on one level I must remind myself
of that aspect of reality. At the same time, I also know that it simply
pain and confusion that cause people and organizations to act out in the
ways they oftentimes do and I can also have tremendous empathy. I simply
can't become part of the drama/dysfunction dance. I am most effective
when I can surface what I see and experience without having to blame
anyone and gently confront the "undiscussables" in a way where my clients
can own the ways they are in their own way and choose a healthier, higher
path.

Toni (normally so over-extended all I can do is lurk)

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