> 1. People are loved for what they do to satisfy others. If they act in
> their own self-interest, congruent with their inner feelings and desires,
> they're afraid of not being loved or accepted.
Please don't take the following as preaching, or at least as personal, or
at least as personal from me :) Yesterday, I had a related thought and
wondered how a company could simply say what it does. (for its own benefit
yet needing customer approval in its relations with customers)
There is a motel notice - "Under renovation so that we may serve you
better." I thought - "Under renovation so that we may earn more money." :)
The thought of being told the truth by vendors (or individuals) seems
preferable, yet it probably isn't comforting to hear about them looking
out for #1. There must be a way to say the truth about one's own (or one's
company's) interest while still offering benefit for the other. (Maybe
Deming's wording of "purposing to stay in business" is part of that.) The
idea of "business" involves that very thing - we do work for you, and you
pay us money.
One of the methods that Senge recommends for personal mastery is that we
have the present state and the vision of where we want to be (not
geographical). We keep in mind both the present and the vision, and the
power of the vision draws us there. (That isn't mystical; it's like a neon
post-em in the mind - respect the elderly, help those who are younger,
share the learning that I have, try not to convey more restrictions in
life than I believe. The vision is in mind when we go about whatever we
do. When we do differently than the vision, it reminds us. When we have
options, it may guide choices that we make.)
While writing, I happened to see the "Copy self" and "Urgent" options in
my email editor. Maybe in the present case it is pleasant to hear, "I'm
writing to myself." :)
Have a nice day
John Paul Fullerton
jpf@myriad.net
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