Levels of Intimacy in Communication LO18717

d.l.dwiggins@computer.org
Thu, 23 Jul 1998 21:30:49 -0700

Replying to LO18670 --

Terri Deems writes:
> Sometimes it seems that, by speaking more deeply myself, others have
> 'permission' (not a good word, but I'm blank by what else I mean here) to
> also be more authentic. But it demands increasing knowledge of myself,
> and that takes some work. It is easier, and 'safer,' to keep my
> relationships on more of a surface level, ...

I think that safety concern is what's behind the feeling of 'permission'.
People are reluctant to take the chance to expose themselves to possible
ridicule or rejection; once you've taken the chance, it makes it safer for
them to respond in kind.

> Good subject!

Indeed!

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