From hurt to love LO20459

BirreD@mail01.dnr.state.wi.us
Fri, 22 Jan 1999 11:24:25 -0600

Replying to LO20431 --

One more take on this subject....

I believe we go from hurt to love by expanding our perspective on the
world. For most of us there are two motivators, fear and love (or
passion, or commitment - however one wants to characterize it). Or we
might say "that which repels" and "that which attracts." Fear causes us
to draw a box around ourselves to keep out those things that can cause
pain. Love, on the other hand, causes us to poke holes in the box and
promote those things that cause pleasure, including the awareness that we
are helping others become happier.

Scott Peck defines love as the will to extend oneself for the sake of
someone else's development. That "someone else" can be oneself, in the
sense that there is someone else inside my skin who is capable of growing
and needs my contribution.

This concept of love draws me toward a broader perspective, on that goes
beyond the issue of fear (that which repels) and love (that which
attracts). We might look at the world in terms of connections and realize
that all beings, objects and experience are interconnected. That is, fear
and love are just two aspects of existence, and neither should get more or
less attention than the present situation calls for. A few years ago this
matter was addressed in a conversation about non-doing. I'll do us all a
favor and not try to restate anything that was said then.

May all list members and other forms of life be peaceful and at ease,

Dave
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* David E. Birren
Organizational Consultant, Wisconsin Department of Natural
Resources
(608) 267-2442

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