In a message dated 7/24/98 10:07:32 AM, Don wrote:
>I'd rather uncritically
>agreed with the responders that agreed with the withdrawal approach. It's
>natural, when feeling betrayed by someone you trust, to withdraw the trust
>unilaterally, to in effect disable them from hurting you again. Your
>questions suggest another possible course: give the other at least one
>chance -- go to him/her and say "Ouch!", and allow the possibility of an
>apology and maybe even a satisfactory explanation.
It is amazing what a difference a productive conversation can do to shift
what we often become resigned to unnecessarily. Most of us are not so
competent in such things and as a result, fail to empower ourselves to
design a better future with other people. Thanks for catching the
possibility in what Thomas Benjamin pointed to in his post.
Margaret McIntyre
MargMcI@aol.com
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