Caring about the boss LO18741

Richard C. Holloway (learnshops@thresholds.com)
Sun, 26 Jul 1998 23:59:13 -0700

Replying to LO18724 --

I appreciate the points of view offered by this thread. Don's recommended
response is a very good one for dealing with reasonable people who err in
their relationships (like most of us do). Brock's experience was,
apparently, with an unreasonable person. The rules of relationships (the
law of the situation) makes the right response a different one, I think.

I've had the opportunity to have worked with two people that were
diagnosed with personality disorders (narcissicists). These people lived
with an entirely different reality than everyone else. It would have been
totally in character for either one of these two people to behave just
like the "boss" that Brock wrote about. In their world, their actions
would have been totally justified and their ability to rationalize would
have convinced them that what they said was truthful.

I continually marvel at the ability of people to survive and thrive
despite the dysfunctions in their organizations and families.

Doc

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